What Define's a Person (Part 2)

We only know how 'good' we are by comparing with others.

On the flip-side, we only know how 'bad' we are by comparing with others.

We often come to our own myopic conclusions by comparing personal achievements, skills & abilities, friends, family, and social life with others. Your perceptions of others and most importantly, yourself, play a huge role in determining your well-being. Let's take an obvious case: a person who has belief in his/her own capabilities tends to be more satisfied with life. In contrast, a person lacking in self-conviction is always derailed by doubts, and likely to be unhappy with life. This situation can, unfortunately, define a person.

A person can be defined by emotions. Human beings are peculiar creatures. We almost always act irrationally when we are over-ridden by emotions. Don't we all wish we had in the past control our emotions better and acted accordingly rather than letting emotions over-rule our common sense that resulted in some sort of embarrassment & loss?

What Define's a Person? (Part 1)

A person should never define himself or herself by comparing achievements and milestones with others. Otherwise, when everyone seem to be doing better than you, you will experience disillusionment and lose your self-worth and self-confidence. And the worst thing is that you could have been working hard, and yet have to settle to see others enjoy the fruit of your labor. Frustration is just the beginning.

Whatever I have painstakingly built over the last year is slowly eroding into nothingness. Call me oversensitive, but I have issues when someone I barely know intrude on my work and introduce your methods and people. Especially when what the people introduced are there to take advantage of the situation. And after what I have done, I just get side-stepped and labelled as a has-been? I face a dilemma: should I work hard & let others get the credit they don't deserve or should I do nothing & get lambasted as a consequence?

Fine, I admit, I probably messed-up somewhere along the way. Some things should have been said and done, but I never came around to it. But that's what makes us human. Mistakes are part of learning. What do you expect when an inexperienced person takes on an important role with virtually no helpful guidance? Everything to go smoothly your way? Now that is just wistful, naive thinking.

But closed doors means another door is open somewhere. Surely there are suitable opportunities out there. I can salvage what is left, and don't let the past define me. It's difficult, but there's no other choice. One cannot afford to wallow in self-pity while others make huge leaps forward. Maybe Darwin is right after all, it is really the survival of the fittest.

Note: I find it easier to write in first person view, and it produces a more dramatic effect. Don't take the 'story' on its face value.