Friday, 2 September 2011

What Define's a Person? (Part 1)

A person should never define himself or herself by comparing achievements and milestones with others. Otherwise, when everyone seem to be doing better than you, you will experience disillusionment and lose your self-worth and self-confidence. And the worst thing is that you could have been working hard, and yet have to settle to see others enjoy the fruit of your labor. Frustration is just the beginning.

Whatever I have painstakingly built over the last year is slowly eroding into nothingness. Call me oversensitive, but I have issues when someone I barely know intrude on my work and introduce your methods and people. Especially when what the people introduced are there to take advantage of the situation. And after what I have done, I just get side-stepped and labelled as a has-been? I face a dilemma: should I work hard & let others get the credit they don't deserve or should I do nothing & get lambasted as a consequence?

Fine, I admit, I probably messed-up somewhere along the way. Some things should have been said and done, but I never came around to it. But that's what makes us human. Mistakes are part of learning. What do you expect when an inexperienced person takes on an important role with virtually no helpful guidance? Everything to go smoothly your way? Now that is just wistful, naive thinking.

But closed doors means another door is open somewhere. Surely there are suitable opportunities out there. I can salvage what is left, and don't let the past define me. It's difficult, but there's no other choice. One cannot afford to wallow in self-pity while others make huge leaps forward. Maybe Darwin is right after all, it is really the survival of the fittest.

Note: I find it easier to write in first person view, and it produces a more dramatic effect. Don't take the 'story' on its face value. 

3 comments:

Jomei Lam said...

i don't get it...

Gary said...

Well U did have the courage to take it up though inexperienced. What sets U back is probably the politicking or games pther people are playing...they think they look good by putting others down. Makes sense or am I not getting it right?

Serena said...

So u fell down n hurt ur knees. Maybe there are some lacerations. Some blood even. Not to mention the bruised ego. So what next? U r absolutely right. Another door is open somewhere. So brush off the dirt from your knees and move on. The longer u sit there n moan n groan, the longer it will take u to reach that open door. Or - horrors! - it might even be closed by then. Take it as part of learning. As part of life. Now u know people are not what they seem to be or say. Be courageous n stake your rights, your ownership, whatever. Be assertive. Be firm. Dont get emo. At least not on the surface. U wl get there one day. I know it. I took that journey too. Love u.